Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating.
If you lately went through a breakup, there is a good chance you want to win ex back. But how do you do that, without being seen as clingy and desperate? To get you on the right track to win ex back here are 5 steps that I learned. They will help you come across as the stronger person – the key to winning back your ex.
STEP 1 – Keep Your Composure:
Let’s be honest. Who really likes a weak, desperate person? Nobody. So why act like that after a breakup? You need to stay composed and keep yourself from pleading, begging and showing desperation. If your ex sees that you are managing with the breakup, and actually seem to be moving on, their feelings for you may just get stronger, and your ex will be the one that struggles to move on.
STEP 2 – Minimize communication.
Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.
STEP 3 – Be flexible:
Do not abrasive with your ex, forcing them to move out or collect their thing before a certain date.
Remember, they are hurting just as much as you are, so be flexible, listen and sympathize with what they have to say. Your ex will be impressed when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to fix the communication channels that were broken when the separation happened.
STEP 4 – Get out there:
So you are feeling depressed, frustrated and in no mood to see anyone else. Hey, we have all been there. But the worst thing you can do is wallow in your sorrows and feel sorry for yourself. You need to take your mind off the breakup and release some of that tension. And what better way to do that than to get out of the house and socialize with your friends.
This does not mean you should start dating again or even taking notice of the opposite sex, but you need to be getting out and having fun with your friends. Not only will it build up your confidence, but it will make your ex realize how crazy they were to let you go.
STEP 5 – Simply be yourself.
There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.
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