Your Relationship Is Over, Now What?

Whether your long term relationship crashed and burned or just stalled and failed, it’s painful. As tempting as it is to drown your sorrows in a bottle of wine, dwelling on it won’t make the pain go away. If anything it’ll make it worse.

Sure, you’ll think about what was, and grieve for what might have been, which is only natural. But at a certain point it’s time to put it behind you and move on with your life, difficult as that may be.

It’s important to take this time to think about what went wrong if only to prevent making the same mistakes in a future relationship. And there will be another relationship, though it may not feel like it right now. Just because your relationship has ended doesn’t mean your life is over.

It’s going to be awhile before you’re ready to start dating again. Right now the mere thought of going out with someone else is scary enough! That’s why you need a plan A plan as to how you’re going to jump back into the dating pool.

Remember learning to ride a bike when you were a kid? Getting back into dating is just like riding a bike. You may be a bit rusty, but you’ve not forgotten how. Once your dating feet get wet again, you’ll remember how much you enjoy meeting new people.

A great way to dip your toes into the dating pool is to join an internet dating service. Whether a free site or a paid site, the pace you set is one you’re comfortable with. Since the initial focus of online dating is communication, the physical stuff doesn’t even enter into things.

Your dating plan should include the following mantra “I Will Not Date Someone Unsuitable Twice”. It’s very easy, especially if your last relationship was a long one, to start dating someone who’s just not right for you. It’s important to know what characteristics and traits your potential partner should have.

Before things get too far in your new relationship, it’s important to take some time to evaluate if you’re with this person because they’re right for you, or if it’s a rebound relationship. Do you have things in common? Do you have fun together? Does this person make you feel good about yourself and about life? Do you enjoy spending time together? If you answered no to one or more of these questions it’s time to take a step back; chances are you’re in a rebound relationship.