I’m a huge fan of independence and standing up for what you this is best for you. Making decisions about your life based on what you think is best and not always giving in to your partner is the way to go. Having said that, when you enter a serious relationship, or even marriage, the decisions you make will now have an effect on the other person’s life as well.
Discussing these things with your partner before diving in (or cutting loose, or going crazy, or whatever it is you’re about to do) doesn’t make you weak and co-dependent; it makes you a smart, considerate person who is concerned about the health of their relationship, rather than being completely self-serving.
So to make sure you stay on the smart road in your relationship, read on for six things you should definitely consult your sweetie about before making a decision.
Babies
Granted, a woman’s body is her own, but there are two of you in this relationship, so the decisions you make about your body will affect your partner too. Starting or stopping birth control or choosing a permanent solution like having your tubes tied should all be discussed with your partner.
Leftover food
You know, I wouldn’t think that my boyfriend wants to eat the last three bites of Chinese takeout from 3 days ago but the minute I throw it out? Oh man, he wants it. He wants it so badly, you would think it was golden lo mein. The bottom line: if it’s not yours, always ask before throwing it away.
Major purchases
Even the Rockefellers and the Hiltons know that it’s just a smart relationship move to discuss buying big ticket items like cars, boats or houses with your sweetie. Unless it’s an anniversary surprise, in which case no discussion is required!
Bringing home new family members
As tempting as that puppy with the heart breaking little face may be (I know, so cute!), resist the temptation. Just because you’re volunteering at a refugee camp while your sweetie is filming a movie and there’s an orphan there that melts your heart, it’s just not okay to bring home new family members without getting your partner’s blessing first.
A tattoo
With their name on it. Enough said.
Erasing the Tivo
Just because you think he or she watched the most recent Curb Your Enthusiasm doesn’t mean they actually have. This is a fast track to World War III, my friends.
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