You haven’t had a date in months, and it certainly isn’t due to lack of trying! But for some reason nothing you do seems to work; not your flirting, not your internet dating profile and not your pleas to family and friends to introduce you to someone, anyone!
Nothing turns off potential daters faster than appearing so desperate for a date that you’ll do almost anything to get one. In extreme cases, dating desperation can seem almost creepy. At best it’s just kind of sad.
Stop trying so hard! In most things social, trying too hard gives the opposite result of what you want. Trying too hard to attract or keep a date will always backfire. Remember that love will come in its own good time; you can’t force it. So stop putting so much pressure on that guy or gal you met on an internet dating service; it it’s meant to be things will progress at their own pace.
Those little white lies you tell in the hopes of appearing more attractive to someone are going to end up biting you in the butt sooner or later, so you might as well stop telling them. Potential daters will be able to tell, deep down, that you’re lying and along with appearing desperate, you’ll come across as insincere.
Agreeing with everything. When you’re having a conversation with a potential date, do you find yourself agreeing with everything they say, even if you don’t? Though this isn’t outright lying, you’re not being true to yourself. You cannot expect someone to get to know the real you if you don’t have any opinions of your own. Agreeing for the sake of agreeing is for wimps.
No one is going to want to date you if you let them walk all over you. Doormats are for entrance ways, not for dating! Showing potential dates that you won’t tolerate shoddy treatment like them showing up late or not at all makes it clear that you respect yourself, and expect to be treated accordingly.
Sleeping with someone before you feel ready to do so is the ultimate act of dating desperation. And you’re sacrificing an important part of yourself by doing so. There’s nothing wrong with sowing your oats, so to speak, just make sure you really want to grow oats and you’re not just doing it because the farmer wants you to!
True dating desperation means dating anyone you can, regardless of whether or not you actually like them. If that sounds like you, you need some dating downtime. And you should use that time to get back in touch with yourself; to like yourself and enjoy your own company. If you like yourself, chances are that others will too!
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