The first thing you do after signing up for an internet dating site is create your profile, including photos and a list of your personal traits. If you’re smart you’ll include a few personal attention grabbing essentials and maybe even a humorous little story about yourself to showcase your sense fun.
When that’s complete, you start searching for your dream date. Using the site’s search engine, you fill in the “must haves” and wait while the dating site returns its results. Usually only a few seconds go by until a list of profiles is displayed.
As you read through the profiles looking for clues of his or her personality, there are a few things you need to keep an eye out for. These are character traits that are not particularly flattering. More importantly, they could be relationship deal breakers.
Badmouthing. Sarcasm is amusing, for a while and even more so when it’s disguised as humor in the form of a joke about the waitress or a friend. But if all your date’s comments about people are sarcastic and unflattering, it says more about your date than the people he or she is commenting on. Think this through. If your date has nothing positive to say about others what makes you think he or she will talk any differently about you?
Past relationships. Almost everyone has had one, and that in itself is not an issue. But if your date has a half a dozen scary relationship stories, it should send up a red flag. You’ve likely had one or two of your own, and hopefully you’ve learned a thing or two, which is all perfectly normal. But someone who is a perennial victim is not likely to have learned anything from past mistakes.
Anger that’s out of place. Sure, we all become incredibly angry at times. And if we handle it appropriately it’s usually not a big deal. But be careful of someone who appears to be angry at the world. They likely blame everyone but themselves for their problems and sooner rather than later, you are going to get blamed for something.
Big Differences. Yes, opposites attract and variety is the spice of life. But if your differences are just too great, that spiciness is going to leave a bad taste in your mouth. Religion, drug use and the desire to have children are all examples of differences that, while they may not affect the short term, can be too difficult to overcome in the long run.
Dating and internet dating is all about getting to know someone. Figuring out whether that person as a whole “fits” you. Your choosing someone to spend your life with, so choose wisely!
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