No matter how wonderful your relationship, everyone goes through phases of “not so great”. No relationship is immune to larger known issues, nor to the small stuff that leaves us out of sorts with each other. The good news? It’s not the end; and it doesn’t mean that things won’t go back to being love dovey.
What’s not so good is that while you’re in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
I get it. I’ve been there. I’m serious. And to prove it, here is my handy little sampling of save-the-relationship maneuvers that either I’ve tried or have had tried on me…and please remember that these are warnings, not suggestions! Hint: I did not do the baby thing. Promise.
Go for a Baby
Seriously? I have to say this? Apparently, I do. Because people are still doing the whole punching-holes-in-condoms or I-swear-I’m-on-birth-control thing and tricking their significant other into an “accidental” pregnancy. And it’s not just the ladies…men do this too. A thousand shades of wrong, folks.
Privacy invasion
“Maybe if I just sneak a peak at his text messages, it’ll give me some magical insight to what he’s thinking and then everything will work out!” Maybe you’re crazy. Maybe you’re delusional. Maybe you’re breaking laws…and maybe you’re getting broken up with.
Moreover, checking his Facebook account and his other means of communication are guaranteed to freak you out. It’s a lose lose situation. If you find something incriminating you won’t be able to use it in court. If you find nothing then you’re just a sneaky snoop. So don’t even go there.
Moving in together
When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let’s face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It’s an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.
So why not move in together instead?! It gives you an exciting diversion and the thrill and illusory romance of embarking on cohabitation is usually enough to distract the two of you from what was causing problems. But hey! Whisper…those problems? They’ll be back. Only this time, you’re sharing a lease. Good job further complicating things.
This post was written by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read hundreds more professional dating posts.
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