One of the great things about Internet dating is that when you meeting your date in person you already know something about him or her. This makes things easier, especially if you are a shy person - you dont have to fear the rejection too much, since you already got thus far
Online chat, exchange of emails and phone calls help to make those first moves, which lead you further and beyond the initial barrier. At the same time, you have never met your virtual date in person, so you have to rely on pictures and everything else that this person found useful to pass to you. There is only one way to fill all blanks, it is a meeting in person.
Finding right moment to meet in person (or to quit at once) is a key to success in online dating. That moment comes at some point in every virtual romance, and, most important, it usually does not stays for too long. You intuition should help you to recognize the moment when the time is right and you have to make the next move. Delaying it will be a mistake.
Actually, initial exchange must give you enough material to decide whether this person is interesting to you and you want to go further, or, opposite, you dont need to continue. In the latter case you need to quit the exchange asap, too lengthy online flirting leads to the following problems:
1. Keeping online exchange with a person who is not too interesting to you may create a lot of confusion on the other side of the line. Perhaps, this guy or girl sitting in front of another monitor is contemplating some plans on you. It is not fair to give him or her false hope that this virtual connection may be materialized into something more substantial. It is hard to say no sometimes, but this is exactly the case when saying no is better, than getting yourself dragged into an endless and useless connection. Besides, the better you know the person, the harder is to end the virtual exchange with him or her. So you better do it as soon as you feel it, do not let yourself a second thought, and do not give him (or her) a second chance: just move-on!
2. When the actual meeting is delayed, the imagination fills the blanks of a virtual friend. So instead of real person, you will have to deal with some ideal one. If ever the real person will materialize, the mismatch could be quite disappointing for both of you.
Savvy users of online dating are getting from Internet a preliminary selection of suitable candidates, the rest happens in a real world. For your own goodness as well for the sake of your partner you have to decide after initial exchange of 2-3 messages if you want to continue with meeting in person, or quit this contact and keep looking further. If you have decided to continue, best would be to meet your virtual date face to face, before your imagination will take over. Dont let this to happen, set a date without delay!
Good luck!
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