Dating online in contrast to its counterpart in brick and mortar world, carries one of subtle and yet great advantages. When we meet someone online even for the first time, we already know something about him or she. This is great, because it makes things easier for us. Shy people must love it, because, this helps to overcome the dread of being rejected, which usually makes a first move so difficult in a real world.
Preliminary message exchange, on-line chat and phone talks help to overcome the shyness, which can make dating impossible otherwise. For the same time, you didnt have a personal contact with this man or woman before, so all that you are relying upon is a photo and the information, which your partner passed to you. Personal meeting is your only way to fill the blanks.
The key to successful internet dating is ability to decide whether it is time to meet him or her in person, or quit the exchange. Trust your intuition. If you feel that the meeting is acceptable and you want to see that person, do not delay with the meeting. Too long delay can cause your on-line relationship to dry-out and die.
Actually, initial exchange must give you enough material to decide whether this person is interesting to you and you want to go further, or, opposite, you dont need to continue. In the latter case you need to quit the exchange asap, too lengthy online flirting leads to the following problems:
1. Keeping online exchange with a person who is not too interesting to you may create a lot of confusion on the other side of the line. Perhaps, this guy or girl sitting in front of another monitor is contemplating some plans on you. It is not fair to give him or her false hope that this virtual connection may be materialized into something more substantial. It is hard to say no sometimes, but this is exactly the case when saying no is better, than getting yourself dragged into an endless and useless connection. Besides, the better you know the person, the harder is to end the virtual exchange with him or her. So you better do it as soon as you feel it, do not let yourself a second thought, and do not give him (or her) a second chance: just move-on!
2. When the actual meeting is delayed, the imagination fills the blanks of a virtual friend. So instead of real person, you will have to deal with some ideal one. If ever the real person will materialize, the mismatch could be quite disappointing for both of you.
Internet dating networks provide everyone with thousands and thousands of excellent candidates for a date. So there is no need to waste each others time on a lengthy email exchange or pointless chat. Two, maybe three message exchanges and go to a real meeting, why wait? Either you will find each other and be happy, or move on, find somebody else, and be happy. Make it a win-win situation!
Good luck!
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