1. Being tethered to your cell phone
If you want to be guaranteed a second date then under no circumstances should you answer your mobile (ailing parents are the only exception). Guys who return a text message, update their Twitter or Facebook, or actually answer the phone won’t be dating us next weekend.
2. Not enough eye contact
It’s usually a sign of insecurity when someone is unable to keep eye contact. Or they’re a deranged psycho. Either way, it’s unattractive. We women need good eye contact for two reasons a) to get an initial connection and 2) to give you our sexy smoldering look.
Both of these ingredients are crucial for a first date. We just can’t get into you if you are constantly looking away.
3. Drinking too much
I’m not hating on booze; I don’t think I would’ve gotten through any first date without it (except when I went out with the recovering alcoholic and would’ve felt bad for drinking.) and I think most people are with me on this.
But there is a distinct difference between having a cocktail to take the edge off your nerves and loosen you up into the witty little charmer you are and getting falling down drunk and trying to grope us. Not sexy. And after the age of 19, it’s not even all that forgivable. Learn your drinking limits and absolutely don’t cross into the danger zone on one of the first few dates with someone.
4. Turning the date into a job interview
Yes, we love a guy who’s organized but let’s not go overboard. Even if we wanted to be your “girlfriend” we sure don’t want to feel like we’re being interviewed for it. Leave the list making and point keeping at work.
So don’t start spouting off likes and dislikes in women, or telling us exactly what you want and don’t want in a relationship. Just let things unfold naturally and if it fits, it fits. We hate having to feel like we’re defending our right to be out with you. It makes us not want to go out with you again.
5. You REALLY like us too soon
When we ladies are at home, putting our pretty on to go out with someone for the first time, yeah, we’re pretty excited. And hopeful. And anxious. One of the biggest concerns going through our minds is, “what if he doesn’t like me?” Yes, not being dug on a date is pretty much a huge downer. But what’s even worse? When the dude is convinced he knows you perfectly after 5 minutes, is in love with you after 10, and by the end of the night is making “jokes” about running away to Vegas and making stuff legal.
Stop! I already said I’d go out with you again, but I didn’t say anything about taking your last name. Not all women are in a race to reach the altar. Come on this strong and you’re just going to freak us out.
This article was developed by the writers of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read hundreds of professional dating articles.
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