A coffee date is the most effective way to move things along to the next stage with a woman. When you have a woman’s phone number the next step is to simply call her and invite her out to share a coffee with you. Getting to know a woman better is best done whilst in a casual relaxed atmosphere such as a cafe.
The probability that a woman will accept your invitation for coffee is much greater than that of her accepting an invitation to a more formal date such as dinner or the movies. Because it’s short and in a public place there’s no underlying expectations for her to become intimate or be exposed to a situation that may make her feel uncomfortable.
Men grossly underestimate the importance of these factors when asking a woman out for the first time. Women take things slowly during the initial stages of a courtship. A short coffee date is the perfect stepping stone to get you to an official second date.
It takes the average woman takes around 8 hours before she becomes comfortable enough to become intimate with a new man. The secret is in how you utilize these 8 hours. It’s best to break these 8 hours into two dates. The best formula is a short 40 minute coffee date followed by a second date which lasts for 7 hours. You don’t want to spend any longer than 40 minutes with her the first time you meet her. The average first date ideas such as dinner and the movies consistently fail because they break this 40 minute rule.
If you’re capable of generating a good connection with her whilst sharing a coffee she’ll definitely be inclined to go on a second date with you. However, even if you’re a master flirter and a great conversationalist, the intimacy and quality of your connection with her will start to die down at around the 40 minute mark. And when this connection levels out, women can easily become bored.
She’ll become bored because although you’re connecting well with her and you’ve created sexual tension via flirting, you won’t be able to take things to the next stage with her. You can’t take things to the next stage with her because you haven’t spent anywhere near 8 hours with her. But because you’ve established a great connection with her and can’t move things on to the next stage, she’ll become bored and frustrated.
When you keep the coffee date short and limited to a period of 40 minutes it helps you avoid this trap. Just as she begins to feel a connection strong enough to make her think about intimacy the date is over and she is left in a state of anticipation regarding the next date. It doesn’t matter if the woman you desire is your dream girl or just your next casual fling, a short coffee date is the most effective way of ensuring things move to the next stage smoothly.
If you can connect well with her on a short coffee date, she’ll be very receptive to the idea of going on a second date with you. You’ll also have all the right ideas about where to take her and what she likes to eat. The fact that you’ve taken the time to get to know her a little before asking her out on a date will make a difference to how the actual date turns out.
Dinner as a first date fails because it drags on for too long and after the 40 minute mark even a good conversationalist runs out of things to say. It doesn’t leave any room for the seduction process to breathe and grow naturally and after two hours of the same thing she’ll become bored. She might not want to see you again because she’s spent two hours with you and nothing really happened. You can connect with her just as well by only spending 40 minutes with her on a short coffee date.
If you can generate a good connection and then end the date after 40 minutes it will leave her in a state of anticipation. When you ask her out again you’ll know exactly where to take her and what to feed her. She’ll be much more receptive to the idea of going on a second date with you and by the end of your perfectly planned second date she might not be able to take her hands off you.
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