You men out there like to think that the ladies are the only ones with a head full of neurotic, insecure, unreasonable relationship behavior. Let me clue you in to a bit of reality, manfriends: just because you’re “super laid-back” (meaning: toilet seat can stay up, laundry can go unwashed) doesn’t mean that you aren’t making your fair share of love missteps. Because you are.
Whether we’re your girlfriend, your date or your best gal pal, we’ve stood by and watched you do it all. Now it’s time for some practical advice about what you’re doing wrong. And after you read this you’re never going to do them again, right?
1. Electronic distractions while having a serious conversation
Same goes for playing online poker (or anything else online), video games, texting; pretty much anything that diverts your attention from the conversation you’re having. It’s rude, it’s obnoxious and it makes us feel worthless, so cut it out. Simply giving your lady friend your undivided attention is going to get you pretty far.
2. Lying to yourself/others about your relationship status
Too many men avoid using the word “boyfriend” altogether in the same way that women tend to use it too soon. If you know what kind of relationship you want, and it’s not a monogamous one, then more power to you; but you need to be honest about it.
If you’re having sleepovers, introduced her to your friends and you’ve met hers and you’re not doing this with anyone else, you have a girlfriend. That’s just the way it is. If you don’t like that, do something about it.
3. Questioning our love of flowers
Is futile. We love them and even more important we love that you bought them for us. It may seem illogical to spend money on something that won’t make it to next week, but neither does chocolate. Besides, there’s just no point in applying logic and reason to life’s emotional pleasure.
You should be less concerned with figuring out the why, and focus more on the how. How does it make her feel? Terrific! How does it make you look? Awesome! Are you getting the picture?
4. Double standards are a two way street
Men and women are both at fault for the whole double standard thing. But guys, seriously, you cannot expect your lady to not so much as look at another guy when you go out and at the same time rant and rave when she shows the slightest sign of jealousy when you carry on a flirt fest with the busty bartender. It’s simply not on. If you want, you also have to give.
This article was developed by the staff of the Datepad.com internet dating company where you can read hundreds of professional dating articles.
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