We’ve all been there: that weird little limbo between “together” and “broken up”, when two people kind of know they have problems but are not yet at the point of wanting to admit that they want out.
Though the two people involved will present a united front to the outside world. But internally; well, that’s a whole other story because there almost anything goes, and it’s kid of scary! Let’s examine the inner turmoil.
As you progress through the stage in between “together” and “broken up”, the emotional distance, not to mention the actual physical distance, between you and your partner becomes bigger and bigger. And at a certain point that distance will become so great that you find yourself thinking more as a single person than as someone who is part of a couple.
Here are 3 signs to look for. If you notice these behaviors in yourself, it might be time to have an uncomfortable talk with your significant other, before you really start acting like a free agent.
1. You are looking at and thinking about other people
And you aren’t just scoping for fun, either. If you’re actually looking at people other than the one you’re technically with and thinking about approaching them, fantasizing (even just briefly) about what it would be like to be with them instead, or even weighing your options with other people against what you already have; these are all pretty solid signs that you’re mentally checking out of your current relationship.
Let’s face it; if you spend more time contemplating “what if” with other potential mates it’s not a stretch to deduce that you aren’t satisfied with what you have.
2. You fantasize about alone time
A few years ago you’d have a bad day at work and come home to a lovely cuddle with your partner; it was the highlight of your day. Not anymore. Now the very thought of it is a sore point. It’s become just one more thing you have to deal with. Instead, you’re wishing for alone time.
Now I’m all for couples having separate time for themselves. I believe it recharges even the happiest relationships is each go their own way for small periods of time. If you cannot find comfort in your lover’s arms in times of stress, then you need to take a good hard look at what you’re still doing there.
3. Your plans don’t include him/her
There used to be a time, when your relationship was still magical, that breaking up never even entered into your thoughts. All your plans, immediate ones and those for the future, included your significant other. And you were both smiling and happy.
But now your relationship has hit a pothole. You realize that as a couple you actually are breakable and your future is looking less and less certain. If you’ve reached the point of no return, then any plans you’re making now are probably just for you, and don’t include your partner. If that’s the case, your mind has been made up for you.
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