Unborn babies feel and experience what their mothers feel and experience as the relationship between them start from conception. Many mothers have a good relationship talk with the newcomer explaining their emotions; fears and stress that baby may be feeling as well. A trusting healthy relationship starts right here for the unborn and may continue right through his or her life.
Un-wanted babies feel the strain as the mother tries to ignore them, wish her pregnancy away or contemplate abortion. How this will influence later relationships the child may have still is a mystery, but it is worth thinking about. The opposite situation where mum welcomes baby in her with soothing words, sounds and even music, lead to a strong bond between the two of them – a happy relationship to build on.
Toddlers are well known for not forming any relationships they are not comfortable with. Prospective friends are usually watched from far and approached shyly should the youngster decide that they are safe enough to spend some time with. Other two year olds will run into the arms of just about anyone offering a hug. This early stages of relationship forming does not reflect on later bonds he or she will form in life.
Children growing up in a loveless home where mom and dad never show any emotions or express their love towards each other openly, may form an opinion about love relationships based on this behavior. In many cases these kids grow up thinking that they should not touch or hold another person to show love. This imbalance will certainly ruin many relationships they might have in future.
Teenagers are notorious for closing up when emotions and feelings are concerned. Behind closed doors they contemplate and brood over their feelings inside them often lead by advice from friends only. A classic mistake parents make at this stage is to criticize behavior that is seen as wrong too harshly and without asking why the teen reacted in the way they did. By listening attentively to them, a bond will form where your teen knows it is ok to talk freely to you about their feelings.
Young adults will very seldom open up to their elders. The skills of listening to them, asking questions that will put them at ease as well as love will establish a foundation of sharing. Judging comes too fast – rather hear the full story and then react without smothering them with advice.
After school the child is pushed into a grown up world where pretty soon they are the ones forming relationships with peers as well as youngsters. Logic leads us to believe that those with a warped sense of interrelations will continue to live that way, but in many cases the young adults regroup their thoughts on what they believe to be true. At this stage in life romantic relationships may dominate their lives and they will gain valuable experiences and even heart aches.
Finding yourself emotionally ill equipped may cause problems at work as well. Schools and parents often forget to share their knowledge of working relations with youngsters causing them to lag behind, as they are unable to form appropriate relationships at work.
Just as you finally figured out the way of conduct at work, you face retirement where the rules of engagement change again. We all know a retired person who struggled to find his place in a house where he never spent so much time before.
Make a point during your life to have regular relationship talks to others as they can only help in discovering the real you.
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