Why is it so hard to get back with an ex? You may have tried everything you can think of to win them over and get them back by your side, only to have each and every strategy fail you - and now you’re frustrated, confused and desperate to get them back.
Actually, there are two reasons why winning back an ex is so tough. One is the balance of power between the two of you. When you’re desperate to win back the person you’re still in love with; the one who has dumped you, the power is all on their side of the equation.
The second point is that most people have no real idea what to do to successfully get back with someone they love and end up spending a great deal of time racing around doing all the wrong things.
Truth is, once your ex has the upper hand in a relationship you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them and both of you know it. If your ex knows that you want them back often times they will make you work to get them back and they will often enjoy the drama of putting you through getting them back. Plainly put, they have something that you desperately want and boy do they know it.
To win back an ex then, play it cool! You don’t have to declare straight away to your ex that you want them back. You simply keep that intention to yourself and make every effort to distance yourself from them.
Some of you reading this may be doing so because you suspect that your partner is thinking about calling it quits and you want to be ready for your next move. When and if it happens, remain calm and let them go - regardless of how much you feel like screaming and pleading for them to stay.
Following the breakup, keep yourself busy and try to occupy your mind with things other than your ex. At this early stage, it’s not going to help you to obsess about the breakup and trying to get back with your ex.
Don’t make yourself readily available to them to chat or do favors for them. If they call, be polite, chat for a couple of minutes, but make it clear you’re busy and have places to go.
Here’s a warning for you! Many people faced with trying to distance themselves from their exs simply can’t do it! They mistakenly believe that if they run around doing favors for their exs that their ex will see them as someone they need. They think they will be able to prove and show their exs how much they love them by being there for them!
This is absolutely wrong! This seldom works because all that happens is that the ex either gets fed up with them hanging around in their life or the ex will start to take advantage. So don’t fall into that trap!
Keep your distance and what will begin to happen is that you will feel the power naturally swing your way and you will be in a far better position to win back ex.
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