The Art Of Making Up

Making up can be one of the best things to happen in your life, or the worst. You must first take a few steps in order to make sure everything is in perfect conditions to make up with someone, or to get them back to you. It is important that you think long and hard about what you are trying to do and how you will do it. All the pain that comes after a break up or a sour relationship may just heal with time, but it may never heal unless you make peace with that person. Making peace can help improve your life but there are somethings to keep in mind before you attempt this.

Here I will list a few things to keep in mind as you go about this attempt to rescue the relationship that is currently drowning between the two of you. It can make your life happier, or make it worse do not forget that, above all make peace with yourself before trying to fix something.

1. Do not be a pathetic loser who crawls back on their hands and knees to the stronger one. You want to have the upper hand and not be cowering and desperately seeking resolution to the conflict that arose. If you NEED this resolution, then its not time for you to go back and try to solve it as you can’t fix something when you yourself are not fixed. Crawling back can make you look pathetic and make the person less likely to find you a better person, they simply may take pity on you which is not how you want to live.

2. In order to get your life together you have to first find peace. Peace with who you are, who you want to be, and your limitations in life. We all won’t be rock stars and famous celebrities, honestly that is OKAY. Once you accept that, you can be happier with what you have. Set a goal for yourself, think of ways to improve who you are and the current life you live. Or else you are living for nothing, not changing from day to day.

3. Accept the fact that it may not work out. This is why step 1 and 2 are so important, if it comes down to it and your past friend or lover refuses to have anything to do with you, you must accept this and move on. It makes it a lot easier to accept this when your life is already in order and you do not NEED this person in your life to be happy, it would simply improve an already content and fulfilled existence.

4. Be prepared, the boy scout motto. Don’t run over at a whim and think like some fairy tale movie everything will be fixed. Set a time and place and think about what you want to say and how you will say it. Maybe bring a gift, go someplace slightly public but not too private to creep them out. Be cautious and never accusatory.

5. Be sure that you yourself are ready. You can’t expect things to work between a happy person and a sad person, as one will always drag the other down, so make sure that first you are not going to be the sad person who makes this fail again, be the happy person.