So you want your ex back and are wondering how this can be done. Here is how you can go about it. Here are the three proven techniques which can be of a great help to you. First things first, you have to start with figuring out the problem. You have to find out what went wrong between the two of you.
It is necessary to understand the problem before you plunge in to find a solution. Analyze the situation and ponder over what went wrong from your side. Be as truthful as you can. Following are the three general grounds for why relationships end:
*You wronged your mate.
*Your mate wronged you.
*Relationship drift-your mate is not as close to you as it used to be.
Secondly you must understand that each of the above grounds requires you to act differently and accordingly. Apologizing will not work, if your mate is not into you anymore as a result of relationship drift. It will be of help only for the first ground when you have wronged your mate. For a start, you can try find out and admit what went wrong and then plan out how can you get your ex back.
The third proven technique is to plan out your actions and steps. This article is too short to cover the plan of actions required in each of the grounds mentioned earlier. Let’s say you wronged your mate. This includes you cheated on them, fought with them, did not pay them enough attention etc.
So now the question is how you can get your ex back once you have wronged them. Here are the seven proven steps to your rescue if you are stuck in such a situation. These steps are so useful that sometimes you can get your ex back in just few days or even hours. If even four or five of these steps are followed effectively there are chances you might get back with your ex.
The first step is to admit your fault. Talk to your mate and tell them that you realize you have wronged them. This is much better than saying “yes I have wronged you but it was because you were so cold to me”…..
Arguing, defending or justifying yourself can work against you in this situation. All that is required here is simple admitting of your mistake. It is important for your ex to understand that you know how to admit your fault and take up responsibility for it. Your admitting your fault gives them a chance to forgive you. However this will not be possible if you do not own up to your mistake.
Secondly you are expected to make them realize that you very well understand how they feel. Tell them you can understand that your actions have made them feel unloved, unappreciated, and have broken the trust they had in you. They will then understand that you are really sorry for what you did and that you can understand how deeply it hurt them.
After this, comes the third step which requires you to listen to them patiently. Ask them what are they going through and then just listen to them. Don’t argue, defend, or justify, just listen. Let them speak their heart out and let them say what they want to without interference. Make them feel that you understand every word which they say. If these three steps are followed correctly before you put forth an apology, there is a chance that your ex might forgive you and think about taking you back.
You can discover more about venting and the other Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in a free course about Get Your Ex Back In One Day. Hans S Delane teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course Getting Your Ex Back Fast here at Relationship Help Tips.
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