The most difficult date you’ll ever make after a brutal breakup is the first date you make after your breakup. Your self confidence is probably almost as shattered as your heart. It’s going to take a little while to put them both back together. There’s no need to pull yourself away from the world though while you’re getting that done.
Granted, the idea of asking somebody out after such a bad breakup can be a bit scary. There’s no telling if the girl you want to ask will say yes or no. But you should take comfort in the fact that – no matter her answer – you’ve already done a lot for your self confidence by just asking somebody out. Sure, you don’t feel that way yet, but soon you’ll understand the subtle benefits of taking steps to help yourself get over a huge hurt.
You don’t want your first date to be an effort to find the replacement love of your life. It should be an opportunity to get to know someone and decide if a next date is in the cards. Make this as “low pressure” of a date as possible to make so that you aren’t worried about rebuffs, rejections, or getting kicked to the curb as the night wears on.
More importantly, if it’s a low pressure date you’re not going to be likely to sit in your car piling on the pressure until you decide to drive away before you even ring her doorbell. The more pressure you put on yourself the more difficult it will be to go through with the date. So, how do you make the most of your first date without really piling on the pressure?
Great question.
The long and short answer is this: make it fun. The more fun you have on your date the more likely you are to want to do it again. If you spend the entire night worried about making the right moves, saying the right things, or eating with the right fork it will just drive you absolutely insane. Don’t do this to yourself and don’t do it to the pretty girl you’re taking out on the town.
Of course, your idea of fun might not be her idea of fun. The trick is to find something that always works. Something safe. Something almost everybody finds fun. Don’t go out on your first date and – because you’re a hardcore daredevil – take her out drag racing or cliff diving. Make it as much fun for her as for you.
If you’re both having fun it’s unlikely that either of you will want to put an end to the fun all too soon. On the other hand if she’s miserable, she’s going to want to put an end to your fun real soon and have you drive her home. The biggest secret to success though about making your first date after a breakup a rip roaring success is to make that date one that is fun for everyone.
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