Emotional affairs can be very sticky. It can be very difficult to shake off if the partners in the affair have gotten very intimate. The resulting dangers will always be there.
There are those who think that limits should be set in a marriage. Everyone has friends.
These friends can become too close.
The friendship, especially with the opposite sex, can become so intimate that it qualifies as an affair of the heart. It is usually defined as sharing intimate emotional details with someone of the opposite gender. It becomes more of an affair of the emotions if you keep this close bond with another person a secret from your spouse.
It can be damaging to a marriage. If your wife finds out about your special relationship with a woman, she might feel betrayed. She could believe that you violated a trust between the two of you.
There is still a lot of discussion whether emotional affairs are purely emotional or if there is sexual or physical attraction involved. If ones need is simply to share intimate matters, why does it have to be with someone of the opposite sex? If so, why not share it with your wife or husband?
It could not be harmless, because the relationship is kept a secret from the spouse. It could be just strategy, of starting it as a seemingly friendly relationship with the hidden intention of making it sexual. Once it becomes a full-blown sexual/physical affair outside the marriage, problems crop up.
You cannot keep this a secret from your wife; at least talk to a psychiatrist. If to share intimate details of your life is all you need, you could have talked to your wife or a psychiatrist from the very start. Such risky relationships could irreparably destroy lives and make you sorry you got into one of those emotional affairs.
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