How is anger management connected with domestic violence? Well, put simply, most people that abuse their partner in this kind of situation, are angry due to some anti-social disorder in that person’s subconscious mind. Anger is one of the main characteristics of personality disorder, including paranoia, schizophrenia, schizoid, antisocial, psychopathic, histrionic and sociopathic personalities.
Many people that are abusive in relationships have anti-social personalities. The anti-social personality type of person often attacks when he or she is drunk or under the influence of some drug or other. This is not true in all cases of course, but it is true in most circumstances. Anti-social personality types often disregard rules and regulations and usually feel that they are allowed to do so. Anti-social personality types are controlling and if you do not confirm their authority, they often vent their anger in a controlling or violent manner.
Anti-social types will often humiliate, intimidate, brutally physically abuse and mentally belittle their spouse, but domestic abuse doesn’t usually finish there. This type of person has never shown himself to be a likely candidate for anger management recovery. In other words, men that batter their wives will usually continue to do so until someone gets seriously injured. It is not a good idea to get involved with this sort of person, as there is hardly any hope at all of them responding to anger management methods. This type will often beat a spouse, until all they want is to kill them. This means that someone could very likely die, since this sort of person will get angrier and angrier as the years pass and will rarely ask for help in order to manage their anger in domestic violence situations.
Even if he or she does get anger management help for domestic violence, it often fails. It is not recommended to start a relationship with this type of person. The signs are an unkempt appearance or wild expressions, laughing for no apparent reason, laughing at a situation where a person was harmed, outbursts of anger for no reason et cetera. This type of person is superficial and will often lead you to believe that he or she is a model for society, when behind closed doors the brute appears.
Of course, hate is the underlying source of this person’s rage, and hatred has been known to kill. Often deep-seated jealousy also underlies the anger issues within these types of people. Many of thes angry people take drugs, including cocaine, crack, marijuana and others. They often exceed the safety limit for alcohol consumption and this only increases the odds of them flying off the handle.
An example of bad anger management and domestic violence can be seen in a small town called Dowagiac in Michigan, a man attempted to kill several women but was still allowed to walk the streets. Little anger management help was provided to this man and often his furious attacks were simply because he felt that he could not control his victims. The victims were left without justice and a few even believed that they could change his angry ways.
Today, he is sitting in the county gaol on a number of charges, including assault of a police officer and a hit and run. The police, according to witnesses, claim that the perpetrator had a weapon and was drunk when he fled in order to elude arrest and marijuana was found in his vehicle. This person had a continuous history of brutality but the justice system let those victims down, which led to more anger management problems.
Another example of anger is in borderline personality types. These people, when feeling alone, will attack others. Sometimes they are physically abusive, but most of the time they are verbally and mentally abusive. The spouse has only to go to work and when he or she returns home, they will be accused of doing something wrong.
The abusive person with anger management problems might even call the workplace of the spouse numerous times to check that he or she is not spending time with someone else. This is another type of domestic violence from an ngry person that rarely recovers, and like the anti-social personality types, these people are dangerous and manipulative.
Paranoid personality types are equally dangerous and manipulative but their anger is almost impossible to predict, because, in most cases, these types act on voices perceived to be inside or outside their heads. Like the antisocial types, the paranoid type seldomly has a justifiable reason for their behaviour. Usually, it is just an issue of control, which means that if the victim is not easily uncontrollable, the paranoid person will react with anger and violence.
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