The eternal search for true love is common in everyone. We continue to look for our soul mates all through life. When we find someone our exciting search ends but the excitement of being a couple takes over.
Honeymoon is excellent. The first year is very good. Then it becomes good and then just something regular. Love isn’t the be all and end all of life. Other responsibilities need looking after.
All and sundry face these issues. Only in novels and Rom-Coms will everything go on happily ever after. Real life love seems to have marginal utility curves and expiry dates attached. It fluctuates; the flame flutters a lot sometimes very bright and sometimes totally dim. This happens.
We guarantee that it happens. The secret of the happiest couples is to keep the relationship fresh all the time by doing things that build the bond slowly. The more people care about keeping the spunk in their relationship the better their bonds are.
One great trick that always works is to listen. Rather than recollect your issues and your life at the end of the day, go out of the way and ask him or her how their day was. You need to listen more than you talk. You need to give more importance to your lover than yourself.
Keep showing your interest and watch your lover feel interested in you. It is magical, unbelievably simple, but so very true. Everyone is interested in their mates, this goes without saying. But there are many effective ways of doing the same.
Learn about their quibbles, dramas, fights, amusements, jokes and sad news alike, daily at the end of day. Whether it is about the boss’s wife or your child’s teacher, discuss and grow together in each other’s heart, mind and soul.
Drama is an inevitable and inescapable part of life. Life isn’t good all the time or bad all the time. It changes always; each day brings its own shade. Keep rowing the boat of life along with your partner and you will enjoy the scenery better.
Get into their mindset and think like them. Know them inside out, get into their skin. Find out what they are currently pursuing and what they dream about. Have regular talks about such things and other small talk things too. Gossip about neighbors is healthy in small amounts. Talk about politics, about movies, about past, present, future, about everything! Small talk is really a great relationship builder.
Studies have shown that couples stick together longer and marriages are happier when the couples engage in regular, healthy small talk. They bicker less and dote more. Start today itself and go home and ask everything about your partner’s day. Don’t stop this after a while; make it your second nature. Make it so regular that you feel odd if you don’t know the way your lover’s boss or employee behaved that day. Love will multiply in value when you invest a little interest.
You can learn much more about this in the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School at Fix Relationship Problems Fast. Lexi S Delaney teaches relationship courses and you can get more here Advice For Relationships.
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