Being able to communicate openly is the key to a lasting and happy relationship. But in so many cases it is difficult or even impossible to persuade a man to talk about their feelings, fears and needs. For women this seems very easy to do but men are a different story. If you have this problem and are unable to get the information you need from your partner, it’s possible you need to try some new ideas.
When is most responsive?
It’s best to approach when you are already engaged in conversation instead of interrupting something else that is going on. Mostly, conversations happen during a meal, in bed or while you are doing something together. These are great opportunities to get him to open up.
Be sensitive
If he just walked in after a long, hard day at work, unless it’s a dire emergency, it’s probably a good idea to let him have some space to unwind before you start “grilling,” “probing” or “digging” for information.
Provide a personal example
For him to reveal, you’ve got to be revealing. Feel free to share your past experiences (though I wouldn’t suggest talking about your past relationships)…your favorite music or movies…your hopes and dreams…your fears or fantasies. After a while, he’ll do the same with you.
Don’t dredge up the past
It’s important that you don’t keep bringing on past events when you talk about your own feelings. Talk more about how you’ve changed and how the past is behind you. Men love to move forward and don’t enjoy revisiting old topics that they thought were already behind you.
Try not to judge
You don’t want to get your partner to shut down just because of a cynical remark. Be sensitive to what they are saying and let them fully express their ideas before responding. No matter what his ideas are – let them say it and feel comfortable doing so.
Be a good listener
Now that he’s talking, just listen. Don’t turn on the television or answer a phone call when he is opening up. Instead of interrupting or interjecting, give him a chance to put things in his own words. It can be hard to keep your mouth shut, sometimes. But being a good listener speaks volumes.
Thank you so much for reading. I wish you all the best!
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