Getting Your Ex Back With The Power of An Apology

Most of us never really learned much about how to apologize. We all know how to say “I’m sorry” of course. But beyond that, we don’t know what to do or say to seek forgiveness. When you wronged your mate and want to get your ex back, just saying I’m sorry won’t cut it.

There are, however, other levels of apologizing. There are much more impactful ways of saying Im sorry. When your relationship has ended because you did something wrong and your ex kicked you out, you will likely need to make a power apology.

Power apologies have several steps to them before you ever get around to saying I’m sorry. They can get your ex to a place of forgiveness and reconnection sometimes in just minutes or hours when followed step by step. Here are the crucial steps to apologizing in a way that can your ex to forgive you:

The first step in a Power Apology is to own up to what you did wrong. Don’t offer a bunch of stories or try to blame your ex “you were cold to me and I was drunk!” Fessing up to what you did wrong is powerful, it lets you mate know that you understand the core problem.

Step Two is to shadow their upset feelings. This means that you tell them how what you did made them feel, as far as you understand it. You’ll say something like “I know by cheating on you I made you feel betrayed and humiliated and furious…” When you shadow or mirror their emotions, your ex will start to feel heard at a deep level, like you truly do understand what you did wrong.

Now you are ready for the third step, which is to let them get things off their chest. Let them vent. You don’t want to argue or explain yourself, you just let them talk about how what you did made them feel. The more they vent, the better.

Now you are making a powerful apology! You are being an adult, taking responsibility for what you did, mirroring their feelings, and letting them vent. This is crucial to helping your ex release and let go of their negative feelings, which they have to do before they can truly forgive you.

Once you have done these three things, you are now ready to actually apologize. And your apology will much more likely be accepted, which can lead your ex back into your arms fast.