Many people ask me: Is it possible to turn a bootycall into a boyfriend? Yes I have encountered that question a lot by now. And instead of giving you the usual “It depends (on nothing)” as an answer, I’ve decided to ask some of my male friends – they are different types ranging from the boyfriend material to the player material. So here we go, the answer to women’s most asked question:
Firstly, how did you start things at the beginning anyway? It depends on that sometimes. Basically, if it started as a one nighter, turning a bootycall into a boyfriend is unfortunately very unlikely. After all, he probably is thinking that this is just another classic friends with benefits relationship. It doesn’t matter if you’ve managed to convince your brain that the few but infrequent night stands may mean a real relationship, it’s not automatically turning into a relationship by itself.
The good news is though, you can find out what is the chance that it MIGHT happen very easily. All you need to do is stop acting like a bootycall to him, and see if he even entertains the idea that it might be a good idea to take you out on a real date. Yes, it is way easier to be said than done.
So how are you going to do it? The Best way to stop being a bootycall to him is to replace the sleeping together with actual dates. Well, I’m not saying you should never ever shag him again…but you wanna at least hold back some of the times. If not, when are you going to have a real date with a real conversation? So If he takes too long to take you out on real date, go and ask him! it’s not illegal to ask a guy out, trust me.
And how do you know he’s keen? Hm, I won’t get to too much details here, as common sense should tell you this. Pay attention to his actions instead of his words. What I mean is, ignore his excuse and pay attention on whether or not he actually MAKES time to meet you on a real date rather than pretendig to be busy or suggesting “drinks past nine o’clock” instead. Basically, if he’s interested to go out on a real date minus the intimacy, your chance gets higher on turning this bootycall into a boyfriend. Otherwise, don’t worry too much and simply move on.
A lot of women think that if they do a certain set of things, they may be able to change a guy’s focus from just bootycall to getting a relationship. Look, I know it may not sound very fair, but Things like these are really depending on the guys and how ready they are in terms of relationship. Although some men are not even sure if he’s ready, some other men are quite clear that they don’t want a relationship at that certain stage.
Sleeping with a woman will not automatically get a man closer to her emotionally. In a man’s mind, he separates physical and emotional intimacy altogether like two different containers. So really, you should be asking a separate question i.e. “Is he EVER interested to be my boyfriend in the first place?
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