Break ups never occur all of a sudden. In fact it’s a chain of events which lead to it and practically all relationships go through it. However, if the break up has taken you aback, you don’t need to dig deep for the reason. The reason is simple inattention from your side. You didn’t once give it a thought there was something wrong which was brewing, or that things weren’t the same between you and your partner or else you would have realized.
Getting caught up with work at times is normal but that does not mean you do not have any time for your partner and don’t get to spend much time with him/her. If that is the case, you will realize that even when you are together it’s as good as not being together because you are just quarreling. This needs to stop. Initially the making up after the fight may seem like fun but you will soon reach a level of saturation where nothing will matter.
Having further problems with your relationship? If yes, do your partner and you trust each other? If not, you have got your answer. Constant questioning, nagging and suspecting will lead your partner to break up and move on. It’s not that you should trust your partner blindly, but if he/she hasn’t given you a reason to be suspicious, you should have full faith in what he/she does.
Do you and your partner understand each other? Do you know how the other is feeling without being told? Yes, it is important to know. It is important to be together during happiness and sadness and understanding every situation. Once you are on the same wavelength passing any hurdle will be simple.
If you do not share the same hobbies at least try to show some interest in them. Your partner doesn’t have to like what you like the entire day and vice-versa. However, if you accompany them sometimes, ask them about it or listen to their stories, it will create an atmosphere of care and that is a great sign.
Sometimes your partner may ask for a temporary break from the relation. This need not mean he/she is dumping you, maybe he/she genuinely wants sometime alone and after all sometimes time is the best healer.
Even if they do ask for a break up show them that is not what you want by maybe asking them to go for relationship counseling. However, you should also make sure that you don’t beg and plead in such a way that it seems like you are frantically trying to build pressure or act manipulative. You can ask but not force.
The only way you can stay away from a break up is through understanding and respect for each other, after all that is the essence of true love. You can avoid breaking up with a little effort on your side.
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