So, you are all excited about your new love interest. You are physically attracted to them, they are smart, and you just have an overall good feeling about it. Only problem is, you are the rebound fall guy (girl). What should you do?
At the risk of making some readers upset, I will come out and say that anyone who starts a new relationship when they are not over the old one is a little suspect to me. I would not put a lot of trust in this person’s stability. This is even more the case if this person was the one who was dumped. It is a little safer if your new interest is the one who broke up with his or her ex.
If he or she was the one broken up with, then you can know a lot about this person based just on this fact. For example, this person does not like being alone and will be with anyone as long as it means having some companionship. Unfortunately, that ‘anyone’ right now is you. As soon as the sadness from the previous relationship wears off, you might find that he or she has lost interest in you and will move on to the next person.
It is worth noting that often someone on the rebound often isn’t even aware of what they are doing. They are hurting emotionally and mentally and can crave comfort from another human being. This can mean that they end up in a relationship for the sake of having somebody to hold rather than to be with that person. Their new partner can get very hurt as the realization sets in that they aren’t loved for their individuality as much as the fact they can provide a quick fix solution to a painful situation.
It is always wise to date people who have just come out of a relationship with care. Take things slowly and try to make sure that it is you they are interested in before becoming emotionally involved. Everyone needs time on their own particularly if they come out of a long term partnership.
Getting over a loved one who has left you can be a long and painful process. You need to give this person the space and time they need to grieve. One of the worst things you can do is to pressure them to increase their commitment to you. Not only is that selfish of you, but it is extremely unfair to them. Let them take their time.
If you do find yourself involved with someone who you suspect is on the rebound, gently advise them to spend some time on their own working through their emotions. Encourage them to date other people. Keep in contact with them if you are interested in a long term relationship. If you two are destined to be together, it will happen although maybe not right away. This is really the only way to ensure how a rebound relationship can work for you.
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