If you’re thinking about winning your ex back, you’ll have to consider a few questions first. Why did you break up with her to start with? If you are to blame then carefully examine your actions that caused the breakup.
Was it because of your selfishness? This kind of self reflection might be hard to do. Examine all of the actions you took. Were these the actions of a self-centered person?
If this is the case, then what has changed? What makes you think that you are done being self-centered? Is your need to get your girl back a result of self-centered thinking?
The first thing for you to do is to make sure that it is a mutually beneficial relationship or it has very little chance of succeeding. If it merely fills up an emptiness in your life then it may not be the best thing for you to do.
You will suffer the consequences of your selfish actions. If it doesn’t benefit the two of you, it might not have good or positive results.
If the reason that you broke up has more to do with her selfish actions, then what makes you think that she will ever change? If she shows genuine remorse and a desire to change her ways, then you’ve got a chance. If she has a pattern of acting out of selfishness in a way that is destructive to your relationship, then there is no point to staying together as a couple.
If you really believe that she has changed her selfish ways, then maybe you should get back with your ex girlfriend. She needs to think about what is best for the relationship instead of looking out for her own self-interests.
In either case, you both must act in the best interests of the other person. Remember, the relationship is guaranteed to fail if either of you acts selfishly. If you honestly feel that both of you can do what’s best for the relationship, then getting back with your ex is the right thing to do.
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