When you want to get your ex back, there are some definite things to avoid doing. Learning what not to do can help you get back with your ex without unnecessary delays.
One thing you should definitely not do is try to argue with your mate to take you back. “You don’t understand what really happened, you’re not seeing it my way, you’re just being negative…”
All of these things are a big mistake. Arguing is probably what got you dumped in the first place. More arguing isnt going to help bring them back. It is natural for many of us to try to attack or dominate our mates into taking us back, but it is a hugely bad idea. It just reinforces why they dumped you.
Instead, listen to them. Get their views. Let them vent about their opinions about what happened and what you did wrong. You dont need to argue. Letting them get their feelings off their chest will make it much more likely they will want you back. Be a good listener instead of a loud arguer.
Another huge mistake is to stalk your ex by phone. This can be leaving ten messages a day on voice mail, or texting them ten times a day.
Heres the thing. If you are stalking your ex, that can be very scary for them. You come across as desperate and obsessed, which isnt healthy. You cant scare your mate into wanting you back!
Instead, notice that you are obsessing on your ex. That is normal and natural. Just keep it to yourself and one close friend. Tell them how much you miss and can only think about your ex. Just dont let your ex see any of those behaviors.
So instead of arguing with your ex to try to convince them to come back to you, learn some relationship intelligence that can get them back in your arms within days, sometimes hours.
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