When trying to get your ex back, a mistake people often make is to say I’m sorry a hundred times. Even though it doesn’t work, we keep hoping they’ll take us back.
There are some things you can do instead of say I’m sorry a hundred times to get your ex back. And they will be much more effective. To begin with, don’t say I’m sorry if you did nothing wrong. Don’t say I’m sorry if they left because of relationship drift, where they just aren’t that into you anymore. Saying you’re sorry when you did nothing wrong comes across as pathetic and manipulative.
Of course, if you did something wrong that needs an apology, that’s a great place to start. You have to understand what you did wrong and be ready to apologize, just don’t start with an apology – yet.
Before you say I’m sorry, do these two things first. Let’s say you cheated on your ex. You sure did make a big mistake. Betrayal and broken trust are filling your ex’s heart.
Before you say you’re sorry a million times, do these smart steps first! Own up to what you did. Admit it. Your ex needs to know at a basic emotional level that you know what you did was wrong. So admit it. Don’t justify or try to explain your actions.
Next, get them to vent. Before you ever say I’m sorry, get your ex to tell you how they feel about what you did. Let them get their bad feelings off their chest. If they want to yell at you or cry or attack you, you take it. You don’t argue or defend yourself. You just let them vent. Venting releases their negative feelings some.
So fess up to what you did and then get them to release and vent their negative feelings. If you do those things first, your apology will come across a lot better and have a much better chance of being accepted.
So don’t make a hundred apologies. Make one, after you do those two things first. If you do this right, you can often get your ex back in hours instead of weeks or months.
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