When we’ve broken up with a loved one and want them back, we want it to happen fast. 15 minutes would be good, and it can happen. We don’t want it to take weeks or months as we try to let time heal their wounds.
But often you can get your ex back fast, in just a few days. Sometimes you can get your ex back in minutes. Here’s what you need to understand to accomplish this:
First, you’ve got to understand something about emotional logic. Your ex used to have positive feelings about you. That’s why you were a couple. You both felt good about being with the other person. Obvious, right? Now, things have happened and your ex has their heart full of negative feelings about you. Anger, hurt, sadness, betrayal, boredom, depending on what happened. The positive feelings have been replaced with negative emotions. Also obvious, right?
What you have to do to get your ex back fast is to help them to release and resolve their negative feelings towards you. When you can do that, you can get your ex back in hours, sometimes in minutes.
How in the heck can you, who they will barely talk to, help them to release their bad feelings towards you? There are several steps to help you accomplish this, but a crucial step you already know. It’s called venting, getting things off your chest.
Your job is to help them to vent, to get their negative feelings about you and what you did off their chest. If you had an affair, for example, they are likely feeling betrayed and humiliated. You want them to tell you how they feel. As they do, you don’t argue or defend yourself. You just make them feel heard and understood.
As they blame or shout or cry at you, they are actually releasing those bad feelings. They are venting out the emotional charge about what you did. If you don’t argue with them, if you make them feel heard, they will release those feelings some, making room in their heart to consider taking you back.
There is a lot more to the science and art of venting, but it is a key strategy in getting your ex back in hours or minutes instead of waiting weeks or months. There are some other steps involved in getting your ex back in minutes, but this is a good start.
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