One of the most difficult conversations I ever had was telling my son about my pending divorce. I struggled with the anxiety of guilt, shame, fear and dread for weeks in advance. When should I tell him? How should I tell him? Should I tell him alone or with his father? Most important of all, what should we say?
I had never seen anything on the market like my idea. The pictures were grouped by age. Some pictures were referenced by occasion. Some pictures in the storybook just showed our love for our son. When our son looked at the pictures in the child centered approach, he was felt our love. The pictures I chose were mostly of happy times.
The templates provided in my book are simple to use. You really do not need any computer shills to use this unique eBook. That fact that the fill in the blanks can be used in age-appropriate terms makes it suitable for children of differing age groups. Love is the key ingredient.
It is extremely important to show your child that you love him more than you may not get along with his other parent. Children feel comforted to know the divorce is not their fault. Children need to know that even though there is a divorce mom and dad will always be there. You do not need to play the blame game. It is not necessarily easy to accept for a child, but they are more resilient then you realize. Your child will be okay. You will be okay. Change is sometimes inevitable.
The five core messages are the foundation your children will depend on when they are feeling frightened, sad or insecure. Repeat the five core messages often in your own words. Youll be rewarded in countless ways as you and your children encounter and overcome the challenges of life after divorce.
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT is a highly sought after guest speaker on topics involving children and divorce and she is a contributing professional on the www.DivorceWithoutDishonor.com family law blog. Rosalind’s site, www.ChildCenteredDivorce.com is gaining a lot of attention because of the quality of it’s content.
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