There can be loads of strain on a Relationship, with Christmas just round the corner and commitments to work, home, and family.
Here they are again, the Holidays. These days can be very wonderful and full of love and happiness with our families. On the other hand, for some, these days can be a chaotic mess. Trying to even out work, family, home and a new relationship at the same time, coupled with extra shopping and making appearances at parties can cause a breakdown of a new relationship.
During the holidays, with all the festivities and extra shopping, there just is not enough hours in any day, to get what you need to get done, finished and put away. Needless to say, a new girl or boyfriend relationship can undergo quite a strain.
For those of you that are familiar with this plight, I would like to share a technique that I have used to save a new relationship from sure destruction. Not all strategy or techniques are going to work the same for everyone, you will have to be creative and alter to your personal needs.
Reportedly, the largest and most serious problem for new relationships during the holiday season is the amount of good, healthy time that they get to share. This does make sense, after all, you were most assuredly spending 4 to 5 evenings together each week. Now you don’t know if you can get one night. This can really throw a new relationship off kilter.
With that in mind, the number one priority is to make sure you have quality time together, just the two of you. You will want to get together with your partner and discuss each others schedules. Once this is accomplished, you will want to actually schedule one or if it is possible, two nights a week for the two of you. These times are completely in stone and you must adhere to the schedule you made. It is important to remember that this time is for the two of you and no one else.
Once you figure out the nights you can be together, plan something nice or special for the time you will be together. You can make this a time to go to the movies, there are always lots of good movies this time of year. Possibly do something at home where it is quiet and relaxing. Always remember that these evenings are for the two of you, no one else.
You can also use these scheduled times together to get things that you need to do, finished up. You can always finish your Christmas shopping together, go to a movie, grab some dessert, I think you get the idea.
Now remember, these are not going to be the only nights that you will see each other. You will go to Christmas parties, work Christmas parties, each others parents for dinner or a get together of some kind.
The reason that you need the scheduled time is that none of the events just mentioned will give you any type of quality time, those events will give the two of you distraction and stress. You need the scheduled time to keep the flame lit, keep the romance, and just learn to be with each other.
Just look outside, lights, decorations, crowded sidewalks, and stores open late. Breathe……. And know that it will all be over for another year in a few weeks. In the mean time keep a positive and happy attitude. Happy Holidays
Do not let your marriage suffer this holiday time of year. No body want you to get a divorce over christmas, so make sure that you plan your family time nicely
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