In the first part of this article, I wrote about how you always end up as her friend. In this part, I’ll write about how you can keep that from happening any more!
Where we left off: I wrote that you need, from the outset, to show her you want her more than as a friend.
Now, that doesn’t mean you have to come off like a desperate, sleazy pick up artist. You just need to communicate your interest in a way where the girl picks up on it, but it doesn’t scare her off.
This is why so many guys MESS UP.
Some guys will flat out tell a girl they’re interested in her. That can work sometimes, but this tactic will tend to scare off some women.
Then there are the guys who are SO SUBTLE in their overtures, that the girls never pick up on their hints that they’re interested.
Therein lies the key. You’ve got to let her know you are interested in her, but you can’t let her be completely sure of it.
When you build upon this uncertainty, she’ll wonder if you are into her or not. It builds into PHYSICAL/EMOTIONAL TENSION.
This is a crucial part of attraction.
Without it, you get pegged as the gender-neutral friend.
With it, you are a viable candidate for an intimate relationship.
So how do you build this tension? What’s the secret?
The biggest thing you can do is learn how to flirt with women! The art of flirting is about displaying your interest for a girl without ever coming out and SAYING it.
So she picks up on your signs of attraction, but she’s not 100% sure about it.
Another thing is to have fun with the girl, while continuing to apply your flirting skills. Going out and having a good time together will create all types of fun feelings, but when you add in the “sensual” element of flirting, that tension is created.
Finally, resist falling into the habits and roles that friends fulfill. Don’t sit around and listen to the girl’s problems.
Focus on her emotions, make her FEEL what you want her to feel. Don’t be the “friend,” be the guy who’s “exciting” and “mysterious.”
Show her. With body language, and flirting. Show her you refuse to be just friends, but rather something more.
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