Have you ever thought about that? Why do men get dumped by women? Time and time again you’ll hear a man make the comment that his girlfriend or wife just broke up with him. You were so good to her it almost seemed like you worshiped her, so you’ll have no idea why.
Most likely you’ve heard the phrase “Nice guys finish last”, right? In fact, that saying is somewhat true. Many women aren’t as self assured as they could be and any women who is a little insecure will sometimes wonder why a really great guy would want her. She is going to be concerned if you act head over heals in love.
Is it that way with all women? Nope, of course not! Many women have the self assurance to know what they want in a man and they’ll expect to be treated well or they’ll get out of the relationship. But there are a lot of women who tend to use the “grass is always greener” thought process. The best guy for them is the one just around a corner.
So, what do you do when a woman breaks up with you for seemingly no reason at all? The first thing you WON’T do is call her, text her or go visit her. She evidently took you for granted while you were together so let her have some time to miss you.
Get back to your life quickly, don’t let the devastation grow. Get out of the house, see your friends, and its okay to start dating again. Dating can be a beneficial way to find a woman with the confidence to appreciate who you are.
What you really need to ask yourself is whether you want to be involved on that level with a person who is so insecure. Think about it? Is she really worth it? If you think she’s the perfect one for you, give her the time and space to catch up. It is never impossible to mend a relationship, as long as the trust remains.
It’s fairly likely that she’ll call you if you haven’t called her in awhile. Be friendly, but aloof. Don’t share much about your life. And don’t ask a lot about hers. And cut the call short. The idea is to give her time to realize that you ARE the man of her dreams.
Basically, she’s going to have to earn the right to have you for a boyfriend or lover. Let HER chase you, not the other way around. And if you finally let her catch you, hold a little of yourself back for a while. Remember, she’s not sure what to do if you’re really nice, so don’t give so much.
Did you hear me tell you to mistreat her? No way! Just stay a little more independent of her this time. If salvaging your relationship is what you want, here are the steps that may help restore your happiness.
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