There was a time when I, being lonely and clueless, spent a ton of time in front of my computer or tv, instead of interacting with others. I used to wonder: “How do we meet each other?”
To me, this question was on the same level as “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” and “If a tree falls in the forest with no one around, does it make a sound?” It was basically a question one could never truly know the answer to. Though, every time I would go out in public and see guy after guy with their girlfriends and wives, I would be reminded of this question.
How do people meet each other?
Or more specifically, how do guys meet women? What does everyone else know that I don’t? Why am I alone and they are with somebody? What is the secret?
Once I decided to take control of my life and make a concerted effort to meet women, I discovered the secret. And it’s a secret that’s so simple, so obvious, that I wonder why I didn’t know it before. Some of you out there reading this probably already know the secret, some might be like I was and not be aware of it. But when you hear it, this secret will make perfect sense. So are you ready to hear it? The secret to meeting other people is
You talk to them.
Was I right? Is it obvious? I know it may seem rather simplistic, but this is probably the single most important notion there is when it comes to getting a girlfriend/wife/booty call, or what have you. If you do not talk to someone, you will never MEET them.
And you can’t have a relationship with someone you never meet.
The simple act of talking to a woman can lead to so many different things:
–You can see what her personality is like
–You can see what you have in common
–You get an idea of whether or not there is some chemistry there.
–You give yourself an opening to get her contact information
–You establish a level of trust and comfort that will allow you to ask her out later on
All this from the simple act of moving your mouth and having words come out!
It is because of this concept that I wrote my book, The Art Of Approaching, because there is so much to know about meeting women. You can talk to them, but what if they don’t respond favorably? What if you run out of stuff to talk about? What if you can’t even think of something to talk about at all?
This is where the concept of the “opener” comes in.
I’ve mentioned openers before in my other letters, and a lot in my book. But having a good opener is really, really imperative, so just mentioning it once or twice isn’t enough.
Want more information about this? Check out part 2!
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