When in-field there are three phrases that have taken my game to another level. Having a backup response that displays a playful side of your personality will suck a girl into your world. These are some of the sure fire phrases that will add some edge to your game.
My first choice would be “How Dare You!?” said in a mock-serious tone. This is great to use anytime an HB does anything outside of your frame. For example, say this HB takes a sip of your drink, touches you accidentally, or delivers a snide remark, simply look at her with exasperation and say, “How Dare You!?” Its a fun way to display value. They will usually follow it up with a snicker and intrigue. Making a girl aware of her innapropriate behavior is excellent for re-framing. Its a great way to bust her balls.
Another phrase I use that is excellent for establishing rapport is “OMG, me too! You’re starting to creep me out.” Finding commonalities with your target is key when it comes to building rapport. I like to play a game in field where I tell a girl that we are going to say our favorite flick on the count of three. We say it at the same time to see if we hit a match. I do this with a couple of different scenarios, favorite television show growing up, favorite comedy movie, favorite musician, etc. it’s a fun game that makes finding common ground fun and interesting. Don’t fall into her frame when doing this. Be sure to know the answers to the questions you are going to ask her. Say the name of your favorite movie, and if hers is different, say “OMG, I love that movie too.” Then instantly give a reason why or an anecdote that will provide a solid reason for the commonality. What’s even more powerful is if you can get your target to say “OMG, ME TOO!” You can guarantee you are creating attraction.
My last choice would be “I don’t believe you!” This is a useful tool when it comes to re-framing. If you are getting any type of resistance from your target this can help change the direction of the interaction. Say your target says, “I’m not going home with you.” You can simply look at her and say, “I don’t believe you!” If she is stubborn about not going home with you say, “Look, you don’t even believe you!” This throws her attempt at taking control of the frame, as you are refusing to fall into her frame. It displays your value with a hint of cleverness.
Enjoy these bits of verbal goodness and watch your game go to the next level -Jonny Cruz
Neil Strauss revealed the principles of becoming an brilliant pick up artist and wrote them into his best selling book The Game.
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