There are a lot of ways to define romance, but the best definitions associate excitement with love. This excitement is either very serious and intense, or playful. If you’re a “natural” at romance, you have the ability to keep your relationship alive for a long time to come. If not, then with a little practice, it can be learned. Here are three tips to try out:
1.) Do something totally unexpected. Women love being surprised. The thing about surprises is that you’re doing something that you ordinarily wouldn’t do.
It may mean leaving your zone of comfort some. If you are the stay-at-home type then spend the night (or weekend) on a well planned romantic excursion. Planning in advance is important because no plan means that you’ll just rely on old routines and habits.
Doing the usual old routine is not the definition of a surprise. There couldn’t be anything less romantic than asking her: “Well? what do you want to do now?”
If you are the matter-of-fact, practical type, this will seem very difficult to do. But, you’ve got a major advantage over the more practiced romantics: anything romantic coming from you will be huge to her since it’s the least likely thing that she’s expecting from you. You have surprise in your court.
2.) Sometimes guys will resume their bachelor ways when they become overly familiar with their partner. A habit that annoys most women is not leaving the toilet seat down. Another is treating her too casually as if she were one of their guy buddies. Never forget that she is a woman who wants to be treated as such.
3.) When you get into a disagreement with your partner, never use the words “always” and “never”. Most people like to use those two words when they are angry to reinforce their point of view even though it isn’t true.
Everyone does this but your partner is going to be hurt by this exaggeration. None of us ever just “always” does something or “never” does another thing.
If you are just starting out, you should know that no gesture is too small. The conventional ways of expressing romance have withstood the test of time and still work. But it won’t hurt to use your imagination some. That’s when the real fun starts.
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