Most of us think we know what makes a relationship last but we don’t always get it right. For instance, are you aware that you don’t have to always spice things up in your relationship? Being reliable has greater importance than spice in a relationship. The following 8 tips will solidify the bond with your partner by building up the most important ingredient in a relationship: trust.
1.) As noted in the introduction, predictability is very important. This is certainly contrary to the common idea that things have to be stirred up in order to keep your partners interest. A little variety now and then can help to keep things fun, but the true foundation of a long relationship is trust. Trust requires believing that your partner will always be there for you. This trust is built by being reliable every day of the week.
2.) Your words should always match your body language. If you say that you’re ok with something that your partner has done but you’re frowning, he or she will immediately pick up on this inconsistency. Your partner should not be second guessing what you really mean, because this isn’t trust. Trust is built when you always mean what you say and the words match the message.
3.) Also be extremely vigilant that your actions don’t contradict your words. In this particular case, body language is not what I’m talking about. If you do something that is completely at odds with what you’ve said, your credibility will be nonexistent. Having no credibility will completely chip away all trust in a relationship.
4.) You must have a profound belief that your partner is a competent person. Everyone does have their strengths as well as their weaknesses, but you must never doubt that your partner is a competent human being. Contempt is a sure way to demolish the trust that exists between the two of you.
5.) Never keep secrets. Secrets tend to have a way of always being found out. Once it’s been discovered, your partner will wonder if there’s other untold secrets. Building up trust takes time while secrets can demolish trust immediately.
6.) It is crucial to make your wants or needs known. He or she can’t be expected to guess about what your needs are. Maintaining a healthy balance is important because too much self centeredness can be as bad as too much selflessness. Not asserting your needs denies your partner the opportunity to express love by giving.
7.) You shouldn’t be afraid about having to say no. A person expressing his or her needs is a perfectly healthy thing. But there comes a time when saying yes is inappropriate. You won’t be taken seriously if you give in all of the time. Respect is vital in creating lasting trust in your relationship.
8.) Don’t be afraid of difficulty, turmoil, or crisis. No relationship is completely free of this. When a crisis is successfully resolved, your relationship becomes stronger and experiences growth.
Building trust can be difficult. But a stable and lasting relationship is worth the work.
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