If you are jealous of friends who seem to have guys around them all the time and able to go out on social occasions when you are at home, confused and maybe lonely, you are not alone. You may believe that there is some kind of barrier between you, stopping you from finding somebody special. However, it is more likely that you are listening to too many dating myths and unable to truly see what is around you.
Intelligent women with a great career lead a very grounded life, but when it comes to relationships are often fraught by insecurities and perceptions. There are so many dating myths that they just question the time and effort involved and sometimes feel that they should just press on by themselves.
One of the biggest dating myths tells us that men believe it is just not “masculine” to fall in love. Some women think that this is the reason why they have never broken through. In reality, guys are looking for the same level of emotional companionship as you are and far from being afraid of commitment, they just want to be sure that everything is right before they go too far.
The successful woman may feel that her high-level career aspirations and successes are intimidating to guys. This dating myth can definitely be dispelled, as many men find a confident and successful woman a definite turn on. Men are not intimidated by power, quite the contrary it complements their view of a positive relationship.
Many women become disillusioned and confused when a long-lasting relationship comes to an end. They somehow feel that this longevity should automatically lead to a true commitment, but once again this is a dating myth. You can’t blame the guy for stringing you along and have to understand that many complex factors are at play in developing a relationship.
If you think that you are going to go out into the world and start bossing around the next guy but you find, this dating myth will likely lead to a short lived association. Some women feel that if they assert power, the guy will like it, but you should remember that it takes a well-balanced and understanding relationship before any longer lasting commitment can emerge.
Don’t threaten to break up or spend time apart in a somewhat desperate attempt to make a guy to commit to anything. Unless you both agree that you should spend time apart for good reasons and for the future health of the relationship, he is likely to run the other way.
Don’t read too much into dating, as if it is all meant to be then it’ll happen naturally. When you eventually find someone who you are going to be with forever, you will be able to dispel all those dating myths once and for all.
Writer Alan Bentley has a lot of material to help you dispel those dating myths. A great resource can be found at at www.cracktheguycode.com.
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