What causes a bride to transform into a Bridezilla?
Shocking as it may seem, many beautiful, gracious , loving brides succumb to the pressures of the wedding. It is not uncommon for an otherwise well spoken and polite bride to begin snapping, screeching , and emotionally igniting without notice over the most trivial details. In extreme cases, a bride may even launch into fits of slapping, scratching, and kicking. This is popularly described as the emergence of Bridezilla.
Understanding the causes of this change can go a long way to developing a prescription for prevention. At first glance, there may seem to be no reason and no cause, but upon closer inspection a few possibilities emerge. It seems, that little details trigger the transformation .
The old campfire story telling technique, “Closer and closer, step by step..” well characterizes the subtle development of emotional and physical pressures faced by the bride. As the wedding approaches, the multitude of details loom before her. The insignificant things take on huge collective importance. The moment something goes wrong, it causes a sinking feeling like being caught in an avalanche. Emotional boulders come crashing down unexpectedly.
How can a bride prevent this build up of emotional and physical stress over her wedding? Should your wedding not be a time of love and celebration? Why does it have to turn into a nightmare?
“An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” This old adage is true and brides should remember it as they look toward their wedding. If a bride understands that there are going to be many details surrounding the wedding, she needs to think ahead, plan ahead, and do ahead. It is amazing how much less stress we have over a job that is already done. Last minute jobs can create a nightmare of panic. When little details are overlooked, they expand and grow larger and larger. Most of these irritations can be prevented with a little planning and delegation.
One of the best ways to avoid Bridezilla, is to hire a capable wedding coordinator or wedding planner. This professional can help control your budget, maximize your benefits, insure your success, and keep everything and everyone working smoothly together. When your plan your wedding with your wedding coordinator and minister , you need to make sure you give yourself and your participants plenty of time to work through the details. Your coordinator will alert you to details you might otherwise overlook. Your coordinator can act on your behalf to prevent problems.
As a little girl, you may have dreamed of your wedding. You may have spent hours upon hours fashioning in your mind all the details of flowers, wedding gown, and more. Your dreams are huge. Unfortunately, they can be very expensive and involve a lot of work. As a bride, you real mission is to communicate with your wedding coordinator and minister what you want. Then let them create the dream wedding for you following your design.
Well meaning and meddling friends or relatives can set off Bridezilla faster than almost anything else. In almost every situation, someone wants to change how you are doing things for your wedding. They presume they know best, and believe that you will be harmed unless you do things their way. This is where your wedding coordinator can come to your rescue. Since you have already planned out every detail, you wedding coordinator understands exactly what is best for your wedding. All you have to do is refer your meddling folk to your wedding coordinator. No more stress.
Bridezilla does not belong at your wedding. She ruins everything. She leaves bad memories that can last a lifetime. Instead, plan your wedding thoroughly and far in advance. Use capable and dependable professionals to help insure your success. Then relax and enjoy your wedding a the beloved bride you are.
Instead of inviting Bridezilla to your wedding, invite your wedding coordinator. Let them worry while you celebrate.
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