Men and women have many different goals in their relationship, and this may sound surprising. While it is obvious that both men and women want to have a successful relationship, the difference in genders go about it differently.
Men have many different goals than women do. The most obvious would be getting sex. Had to put this one first, did I? Sorry, but I did. Even if the guy in question is really, honestly looking for a serious relationship, his focus is still going to be a lot more on sex than a woman’s is. He’ll be looking more deeply for a sexual connection (and especially for sexual cues) than a woman would be. Which will change how he behaves towards her, and the vibe he gives off during the date.
Men love doing random things to have fun. Women also enjoy having a fun date, but guys don’t want a date to feel like a serious situation. For men around the world, dating should be about laughing and having a blast. Men want to find someone who is always fun to be around.
Men generally try their best to win her interest. Unfortunately, dating is sort of a competition to most people. Admit it: if you meet somebody you’re not at all interested in, don’t you feel a little bad about yourself if they’re not interested in you, either? So whether or not a man is interested in dating a woman, one thing that he usually is interested in doing is getting her interested in him. No matter what he wants the final result to be. It’s an ego thing (and women, of course, do it too).
Women have completely different goals. Attraction coupled with liking. Women care about sex, of course, just like men do. And some women go on a date looking to find a sexual partner. But when a woman goes on a date, she generally looks at the whole package with a very keen eye. Is he both physically attractive and mentally attractive? Does he bring all of the things she’s looking for in a partner to the table? Of course, men care about finding all of this in a woman, as well. But men tend to be more relaxed about the process– one or the other is generally enough for them. Most women, however, need both to want to take the relationship to the next step.
Taking him seriously. You can make a woman laugh and make her blood burn a little hotter… but that doesn’t necessarily mean the first date will be a real success. Why? Because if she’s serious about a relationship, one of a woman’s goals will be to find a man she can see herself building a life with in the long term. Women tend to think much further ahead much more quickly than men do.
Women try to focus on developing a friendship. While people of both sexes can make friends with the opposite sex, of course, women are much more focused on the friendship aspect of dating than men are. Men see their dates as something separate from their friends– two spheres which shouldn’t and generally don’t collide. Women, on the other hand, look at men as potential friends as well as potential partners.
With internet dating, everybody is looking for something a little bit different from that first date. It’s not easily to generalize and say that “women wish to accomplish this” and “men wish to accomplish that.” The truth is, both men and women share all the goals in this article. But knowing which goals the person you’re dating is likely to give priority can help you to understand better how he or she interacts with you. And help you to prioritize what you should be looking for from them.
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