Have you ever met somebody who seemed to be able to convince anybody to do anything, just by talking to them. You know, like the salesman who can sell ice to Eskimos?
How are these incredible persuaders able to do this?
One effective way of persuading others while talking to them is by using conversational hypnosis
Never heard of conversational hypnosis?
When I say conversational hypnosis I am not talking about putting people into deep trances like a certified hypnotist would do in his office.
The use of language to distract or by-pass the listener’s conscious mind and make subliminal suggestions to their subconscious is conversational hypnosis.
One of the best at doing this is a guy called Robert Dilts. He calls this kind of language sleight of mouth. He says that language is really a map of our world, and that no two people live in the same world. (Deep, huh?)
What he means is that every person sees the world in a different way, and they use language to both talk about their world (describe it), and to actually create their world.
To put it simply, when you discuss something in a specific way, you are actually directing your mind to think of it in that way. To give an example, a person who constantly complains that she hates school, will reinforce that she hates school. She will actually make her words into her reality.
How is this related to conversational hypnosis?
Just like you can make yourself hate school, you can also make other people hate school by constantly talking to them about how much you hate school.
Now you know why attitudes indeed are contagious. Because the attitudes expressed in words direct the minds of the listeners to think the same way.
Words you hear infect your subconscious brain just like a virus you get infects your physical body. So if you hang around friends who use constantly use words to express that they hate school, then it is quite possible you will start to feel that way too. Not because you agree with their logical argument, but rather because the words they use to describe their feelings will penetrate your subconscious mind.
Words are truly powerful. And one reason is that the subconscious mind acts like a sponge and just soaks them up.
The subconscious mind is always aware of what’s going on around you. In fact, that’s were most of a person’s thinking goes on. But the subconscious is easily influenced by what people around you are saying.
So if you use the right kinds of words you can really change the way you, and others, see the world. And what are the right kinds of words? Ahhhhhh, thats a good question. But youll have to wait until part 2 of this article, or visit my blog.
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