True love is what everybody wants in their relationship. We all have intimacy needs and we all want true love. We hope for it and work hard to find the right relationship so we can have it.
Then, when we get into a relationship, it feels great at first. We often feel some stirrings of true love. But over time, the longer we are together, it seems like true love starts to slip away some. The person who felt so right in the beginning can start to feel less right after a while.
Keeping true love is much harder than finding it, isn’t it? If not, wed still be with our first high school crush. So what can you do to keep true love? There are many things.
The first thing is to realize that there are phases to all relationships. The honeymoon “there’s only you” phase will not last. The next phase is the me/us period, where separation and getting on with your own goals starts to become important. But true love isn’t gone in this phase, it just changes its feel.
A second important factor for keeping true love is to understand that there needs to be a balance between giving and receiving. You can’t do all the giving or all the receiving. You both have to give and take. If you don’t, you will kill off true love.
A third key to true love is to PLAY. Play is vital to a healthy, loving, intimate relationship. Play with your mate on a regular basis, in bed and out. Dont let the burdens and responsibilities of adulthood and job kill off the play in your relationship.
Do you have a regular date night? Do you have a few things you enjoy doing together? Playing together may be hard if youve gotten out of the habit, but with a little attention you can start to bring some back. And studies have shown the more play the less fighting and conflict. Play is good!
True love is not static. It is an ongoing effort. But don’t give up on true love because it is challenging. Pay attention to the factors that increase it and keep learning more about it and you will reap the rewards of having more true love in your love life.
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