True love is what everybody wants in their relationship. We all have intimacy needs and we all want true love. We hope for it and work hard to find the right relationship so we can have it.
So we finally get into a relationship, things are great for a while, we feel some sense of true love, we are very hopeful. But then, true love seems to start slipping away. This person we love starts to lose their luster, we start to notice little things about them that bother us, or vice versa, they start to get bothered by us. In time we can start to argue and further on we can break up or get a divorce.
To find true love often seems easier than keeping true love, doesn’t it? If it was easy to keep true love, we’d all be living happily ever after. So how do you keep true love alive? There are several ways.
To begin with, understand that there are phases to every relationship, and you wont stay in the honeymoon phase for too long. But just because you move into the next phase of me/us, where some separation and conflict occurs, it doesnt mean true love is gone. True love just changes form.
Another factor for keeping true love alive is to balance giving and receiving. You have to give some love and attention to your mate, and you have to get some loving attention from them. It can’t be mostly one way or the other or this will damage true love over time.
A third key to true love is to PLAY. Play is vital to a healthy, loving, intimate relationship. Play with your mate on a regular basis, in bed and out. Dont let the burdens and responsibilities of adulthood and job kill off the play in your relationship.
So do you play often with your spouse? Is a date night a regular part of our schedule? If you have forgotten to play or gotten out of the habit, a little focus can bring it back fairly quickly. Playing together for just a few minutes several times a week can do wonders for keeping true love alive.
True love, then, requires some focus and attention. If you do not give up when things get tough, if you give some time and attention to play in your relationship, you can actually keep true love alive. That and keep learning more about it and you can keep it alive with your mate.
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