Flirting with girls is fun. But it doesn’t have to be mysterious. Here are three main ways to flirt wtih women.
You can take the initiative and just say something flirty.
Alternatively, you can appear to be much more spontaneous by waiting for her to say something that you are ready for, and then shooting back a flirty response that takes them by surprise.
And you can bait them into doing something that will set up one of your pre-planned responses.
Here are some examples of each:
ACTIVE FLIRTING: This is the most direct method. You simply take the initiative and do something flirtatious. For instance, you could bump into her, or give her a certain look, or play with innuendos. You take a chance when you’re direct, though. If your flirting is cheesy, it can come off as canned. But if she’s in the right frame of mind it can show an attractive kind of confidence.
TRIGGERED FLIRTING: Triggered flirting can be even better than proactive flirting, because it appears more spontaneous and less planned. For instance, suppose she brags about herself. You could say, “That’s impressive. You’ve just earned 5 more minutes with me.” Reactive flirting can signal that you’re quick witted and ingelligent. And, of course, it doesn’t actually have to be spontaneous. You might have dozens of responses ready for common things girls say or do. It just has to look spontaneous to be effective.
TWO-PART BANTER: You can deliver lines that look spontaneous, but which are actually set up. You simply take one of your lines from the previous category, and create the situation that triggers the line. How migh that look? Well, suppose whenever a woman asks you what kind of car you drive, you have this funny routine about some crazy car that no one would ever drive. Instead of waiting for her to ask about your car, you could mention off-hand that your car needs to go into the shop or something. She should bite. If not, keep trying to bait her. And you can do similar things for all your pre-planned banter. If you have a lot of passive banter prepared for many situations, this is a surefire way to be able to show off your highly advanced flirting skills.
Those are three great ways to engage a woman in playful banter. You can read more about all of them in the “Flirting Deconstructed”.
Tyler Paxon Ph.D. is the founder of the How To Flirt website. Take his free quiz at http://how2flirt.com
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