This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: Some men think they are too old. Some men think they are too fat. Some men think they are too short. Some think they’re too ugly.
I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.
Myth #1 – You must be good looking to attract women.
Look around this world and notice the different types of men, who date beautiful women, you will find this myth is not true. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?
The difference is, you may not escape your looks, but you do control your presentation of what looks you do have by the way you groom and wear your hair as well as how you smell and the clothes you wear, and so forth. Taking control of your appearance makes any man more attractive.
Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike
It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.
Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you. Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.
You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.
This is incorrect.
Women have a different set of standards when determining their attraction than men have. This does not mean they have no care as to the attractiveness of a man; they just do not use physical characteristics as a means of judgment as men do.
To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities
Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.
No matter what it is, we see it!
And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren’t very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they’re not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.
A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.
Myth #4 – Good Looking Men Have It Made
Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.
Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.
When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.
Do you know that a woman may not at first find a man to be physically attractive and then somehow experience thrilling fun and pleasure; she will become attracted to him in time?
Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.
Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.
As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.
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