Busting The Myths Of Attracting Women

One of the biggest issues I have to deal with when it comes to my students is the idea that they are too ugly to attract women.

There are various sizes and shapes of insecurity, such as: Some men think they are too old. Some men think they are too fat. Some men think they are too short. Some think they’re too ugly.

Here we can dismiss a few myths concerning attraction, which may be holding you back from a successful love life.

Myth #1 – You have to be good looking to get women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case. Simply put, it is essential to look good regardless of your physical attractiveness. Is there a difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc. Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good. Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you. Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.

WRONG.

Women have a different set of standards when determining their attraction than men have. This does not mean they have no care as to the attractiveness of a man; they just do not use physical characteristics as a means of judgment as men do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Men’s Insecurities

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receding hairline.

No matter what it is, we see it!

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it. Then remember, in every situation it is essential to focus on your good qualities rather than any shortcomings, since the positive will outshine the negative or at least balance it more in your favor.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

This is probably the biggest myth there is – that if a guy is good looking, girls are going to automatically flock to him.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she’s around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.

For example, take a man that a woman is not physically attracted to initially and then give them some time while he causes her to experience pleasure, excitement and fun, eventually, she will become attracted to him.

Making others feel good causes them to want to be with you, this is a fundamental of attraction.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

Despite any shortcoming you may think you have, once you begin leading a woman down the path of sexual attraction, she begins to see you in a much different light, so you do not have to look like the cover guy on GQ.